In this term’s newsfeeds we’ve been exploring how to teach kids to be peacemakers, rather than peace breakers, with some tips from Focus on the Family.
Here are some final key principles that young peacemakers need to learn:
Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.
You don’t need to feel like forgiving before you can really forgive. It’s a choice you make, not a feeling. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting about what someone did to hurt you, excusing the other person’s wrong doing, getting a guarantee that someone won’t do the same wrong thing again. Forgiveness does mean not dwelling on what the other person did wrong, not bringing up the situation and using it against them, not talking to others about what the person did, and being friends with the person again.
It is never too late to start doing what’s right.
You can always stop doing wrong, then think about a better way and plan how to pursue it.
Think before you speak.
Or before you act. Or before you confront someone.
Respectful communication is more likely to be heard.
This includes the words we speak, our tone of voice and our body language (making eye contact and avoiding bad gestures, facial expressions or posture).
A respectful appeal can prevent conflict in the first place.
- Stop yourself from choosing to say or do something that will cause conflict.
- Think about why you want to appeal and about what words to use.
- Appeal (Ask): Using “I” messages and questions, communicate your appeal in a respectful way.
- Respond respectfully whether the other person answers yes or no.
I hope the tips this term for resolving conflict have been helpful and that we can all learn to be peacemakers, rather than peace breakers, making our homes and school a more harmonious place to be.
On a final note, many of you will be aware that I’m finishing up at Glendale at the end of this term to go on parental leave. It’s been a pleasure getting to know many of you during my time at the school and being part of the Glendale community. I’d like to wish you and your families all the best for the future.
God bless, Adele