In the last newsletter we looked at why dismissing or minimising our child’s feelings makes your parenting job harder. Sometimes, even when you know that you shouldn’t tell your child to stop crying, it’s hard to know what to say instead!
Here’s some suggestions:
- It’s ok to be sad
- This is really hard for you
- I‘m here with you
- Tell me about it
- I hear you
- That was really scary/disappointing/upsetting/sad etc.
- I will help you work it out
- I’m listening
- I hear that you need space. I want to be here for you. I’ll stay close so you can find me when you’re ready.
- It doesn’t feel fair
You could also just say nothing! Sometimes no words are needed and physical comfort or presence is enough.
Check out the next newsfeed for what NOT to do when your child is crying. Adapted from Happiness is Here blog.