Term 4 is upon us again! I read somewhere that we have 7 Wednesdays until Christmas!! Although this term can tend to be a busy one, I am challenged to focus on the things I am grateful for in each day. We can become so busy and forget to stop and smell the roses. I don’t want to forget to stop… Let’s make time for the “roses”.
I recently read an article on building resilience in kids and I thought I’d share a few keys from Linda Stade:-
Resilience in an unpredictable world is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children.
- Safe adults – having a meaningful relationship with someone who is approachable and consistent is invaluable to a child. It is one of the pillars of building resilience.
- Ritual – Ritual is inherent to all cultures worldwide. They are a method humans have developed to cope with change and to celebrate the cycles of life. The beauty of rituals comes in the safe space they provide for people. Weddings are different around the world but they all incorporate ritual and they all celebrate a new beginning.
- Involvement in communities – When a child is part of a community they are part of something bigger than themselves. When you are part of something bigger than yourself you are stronger. You are more permanent and you have a greater sense of identity. A resilient child recognises that they have a place and that they belong. Belonging is the starting point to positive wellbeing and powerful education.
- Mindfulness – is the process of consciously listening to your thoughts and being aware of which ones should be ignored and which are valuable. It is your brain evaluating itself and ensuring you stay ‘in the now’. The past is often connected with regret, guilt and shame. The anticipated future is often tied to anxiety and worry. If kids can stay in the ‘now’, life is much calmer.
- Model resilient behaviour – it is impossible to stress too highly the importance of role modelling in teaching emotional regulation and resilience. What we need to do is role model recovery. There is no set time schedule for recovery, but discussion about the fact that it is happening is important. Talk about and name the feelings. Kids should see that it is normal to experience ups and downs in life. They need to see and hear you recognise that the bad times will get better and the good times won’t last forever.
A reminder that I am at school on a Monday and Tuesday, please feel free to pop in or give me a call.