Chaplain Chat – Dealing With Conflict

Hi Everyone,

This week the school held the Book Fair! I had a look at some of the books for sale in the library and three caught my eye: “Guts” by Raina Telgemeier, “Stupid Carrots” by David Campbell, and “Butt Out” by Heath Mckenzie. All three books stood out to me because they all had the same underlying theme which was how to deal with conflict. In each book, the characters had to deal with conflict which rose up either at school, at home or conflict from differing opinions. Thus this week I would like to discuss how to help children handle conflict.

According to Kids Helpline, conflict is a normal part of a child’s life. highlights that no one likes to deal with conflict, however arguments, fights, and disagreements are a part of life. Thus it is important to teach children to deal with conflict in a healthy way. Kids Helpline states that if children know how to manage conflict they are also more likely to be happier, develop healthy friendships, and learn more effectively.  Kids Helpline highlights that the way children resolve conflict is dependent on several things: their age, stage of development, and life experiences. However, highlights that if parents help their children manage conflict effectively in early childhood, this helps them to avoid further interpersonal challenges later in life.

Kids Helpline lists the following tips to assist parents on some of the ways they can help their children (at any age) to manage and resolve conflict with others:

  1. Be a positive role model – Kids learn about resolving conflict by observing others.
  2. Create a safe environment – Allow them to express themselves openly and honestly without fear of a negative or emotional reaction.
  3. Teach them strategies to calm down and help them manage their feelings – Such as deep breathing, relaxation, exercise, writing, drawing, painting, or reading one of the three books mentioned above. Ways to manage their feelings at the moment of the conflict can include counting to 10 or walking away.
  4. Teaching effective communication skills- below is a picture (From kids Helpline) that highlights some skills that can help your child communicate more effectively during a conflict:


For more information of how to help your children resolving conflict with others please visit the following websites:\

Thank you,


Chaplain Chat – Helping Children Adjust to Change

Hi Everyone,

During this term, there have been a few surprises that have occurred already such as going into lockdown and adults having to wear masks again. The ANZAC weekend lockdown highlighted how quickly things can change in life. In this post, I am discussing how parents can help their children cope and navigate life changes.

According to, life changes are inevitable and they can be difficult for anyone of any age. highlights that a child’s resiliency is built when parents help them experience positive transitions when life suddenly changes. Furthermore, children who develop greater resilience at a young age can better manage stress and cope with other changes or challenges that occur later in life. states that some common life changes that can affect children are: moving locations, divorce, and the loss of a loved one. provided a few tips on how parents can help their children cope with big life changes, of which I will be discussing the following three:

  1. Listen to their concerns

Addressing the questions and concerns that children may have about life changes is important. emphasizes that children simply want to be heard and understood, thus when discussing the life change/s it is important to acknowledge and validate your child’s feelings with a statement like “it is okay to feel that way”. Some children may struggle to name their feelings, so parents may need to assist them in naming or putting a label on their emotions (anxious, sad, scared, etc). This will help your child feel like their emotions are manageable and less overwhelming.

  1. Keep Routines the Same

Having some consistency and stability is important for children when major changes happen. states that children feel safe when they have a structured life, so during times of change parents can help restore a sense of safety by having regular family routines. This means that when a change occurs in a child’s life try to stick to your usual schedule. For example, if your child is living in a second home after divorce, it may be helpful for them to have the same bed and meal times in both homes.

  1. Read Books about the Big life changes provides a list of 85 books that they highly recommend for specific life changes, for example:

  • If your child is dealing with changes that occur during a divorce, books like “Two Homes” and “Invisible String” are helpful.
  • If there is a new baby in the family, books such as “You Were First” and One Special Day: A Story for Big Brothers and Sisters” maybe be helpful for the older siblings.
  • If your family has had to move homes, states, or countries the following books are recommended “A Kiss Goodbye” or “Moving to the Neighbourhood”.

Change is difficult to adjust to, so I hope the above tips help you to create positive transitions during any future changes in your child’s life. If your family is currently experiencing any big life changes I would like to leave you with the following word of encouragement:

Thank you



For more information on helping children adjust to life changes please visit the following websites:

Chaplain Chat – Positive Thinking

Welcome back, everyone!

As I was visiting a few classrooms this week I spoke to a lot of students who were so positive and excited about returning to school to see both their peers and teachers. Also, to add to their excitement, this term there are a lot of things that are happening including cross country, school photos, lighting carnival, and lots more. Generally, at the beginning of the term students tend to have a lot of excitement and energy. However, as the term goes on their energy appears to plateau and then increase as holidays approach again. provides several tips on how parents can help their children cultivate positive thought patterns, which may be helpful for students to avoid experiencing the mid-term energy plateau this semester. I am sharing with you the following three tips:

  1. Be a great role model. states that it is important for parents to be exemplary role models of positive thinking to their child. Children are prone to consciously and unconsciously mimic their parents, thus parents need to be aware of the mood, speech, and actions they model in front of their children.  Haim Ginot states that “children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.” For example, speaking positively about the school events that your child might be anxious about participating in, such as the lighting carnival or cross country will help them view this event with more positivity and less anxiety.

  1. Be a motivator and encourager.

It is important that children feel that their parents are their number one fans. Throughout the term consistently reinforce to your children the belief that they can do their best, whether that is in: music, engineering, sport, or other subjects. Also, it important to motivate them to pick themselves up and carry on when they do not get the results they were aspiring to receive. For example, if your child does not receive the result they would have wanted for the cross country run, it is important to highlight to your child that there is always a silver lining to everything that happens. With the cross country example maybe encourage your child to try to actively improve for next year by running more during lunch, participating more in sports, or doing more physical activities on the weekends.

  1. Ask them about the positive events of their day.

Ask your child about the positive things that happened at school, instead of just asking how their day went. highlights that when children stay focused on thinking positively, their positive experiences will only continue to grow. So, ask questions that specifically requires them to focus on the good things they achieved at school such as helping others or making a new friend

I hope the above tips help guide you on how to motivate your children and help them to avoid the mid-term energy plateau during this eleven-week term. For more general tips on helping cultivate a positive mindset in your children, please visit the following website:

Thank you,